Why You Should Not Date Your Best-friend

I lost my best friend of 12 years by dating him for 3 months

Photo by Toa Heftiba on Unsplash

I started dating my long-term best friend last year.

We’d been friends for over 15 years, on and off. We jeopardized our lifelong bond to a 3 months-long relationship.

Hollywood movies and magazines like Cosmopolitan have been feeding us the idea that dating and marrying our best friend is the ultimate goal in the love universe. From Love, Rosie to Chandler and Monica in Friends, we’ve been devouring this concept for decades.

In this post, I have shown a different side of the story, which often gets unnoticed.

Background

I was 12 when I saw my long-term best friend on our school bus. We were acquaintances back then, but he had something that struck a chord with me even when I was that young.

We didn’t become friends immediately; in fact, it took us several years. Orkut and Facebook finally got us talking. We reconciled after every few months of no communication and managed to keep our friendship alive. We were pretty alike, same ideas and philosophy about life, highly emotional, and comfortable around each other. Like Pheobe and Joey, we also made a fact of marrying each other if we don’t find anyone else by the time…