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Why I Don’t Believe in Giving People Second Chances

Shreya Badonia 🧨
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4 min readMar 22, 2023
Murals: Orestes and the Furies (ca. 1920–1921) by John Singer Sargent. Original from Yale University Art Gallery. Digitally enhanced by rawpixel.

Life changes you in ways you can’t imagine.

As a teenager, I had a bigger heart, a lot of patience, and an unbelievably high threshold to handle bad behavior.

I’d let people treat me the way they wanted to. My high acceptance allowed them to take me for granted.

It was unknown to me that I could control their behavior. I was a people pleaser trying to please everyone at the stake of emotional and mental health.

I treated myself miserably and got hurt by trusting people. Still, I kept forgiving them thinking they’d change.

Most of them never changed and the fear of losing them crept in. I continued to forgive people and give them second chances and they continued their usual behavior.

First chance become second chance. Second chance became third and the cycle kept going until one day…

The first chance becomes a second chance.

The second chance became the third and the cycle kept going until I understood the human psyche that changed the way I function with other humans.

I don’t believe in second…

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Shreya Badonia 🧨
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