According to the Lok Foundation-Oxford University survey, 93% urban Indian population said they had an arranged marriage as of January 2018.
When people get ready to marry a person selected by their parents and society, dating and being in a relationship never hit their radar. Therefore, dating is still considered taboo in my country. The conservative beliefs and orthodoxy don’t allow people to interact with the opposite sex.
Luckily, because of my liberal and advanced mother, I was never restricted from talking to guys and hang out with them. It led me to start dating when I was 16. It’s been me over a decade of dating and meeting new people. …
Last year, I kept my resolution to read 50 books from various genres. This year was slightly difficult. Although I managed to much lesser this year most of the books challenged me to think differently.
The first book on this list is Educated by Tara Westover. This is a memoir based on Tara’s bizarre life — living with Mormon parents. Her father believed that the govt was spying on them, and believed that doomsday was coming.
The internet has given us a chance to be creative and share our craft with the world. It has made people more creative and pushed them to explore different creative professions like never before.
Lately, I have been meeting a lot of people who have a side hustle aka a blog, a podcast, or a YouTube channel. The one thing that most of them complain about is staying motivated. As someone who’s been creating content consistently for a couple of years, I understand those days when we feel dejected and uninspired.
It happens to me all the time. Although I love having conversations with intellectual people for my podcast, and for my YouTube Channel, there are days when I feel hopeless and have zero motivation to do so. This low phase affects my productivity and stops me from producing and sharing my work with the world. …
Many centuries ago, when the wars were primarily fought by manpower, cavalry used to be the last hope of the army who was losing the battle. When they were done and exhausted on the verge of giving up, their eyes would search for the cavalry to save them and bring them home.
Even when our lives are much safer today and the world much calmer, the battles are still being fought. These battles that we fight every day in private — with ourselves and with people we love.
If you’re waiting for someone to come and save you from the pain and hard work and take you to your dreamland, similar to those soldiers, I have news for…
I used to think that working hard and making more money is the only way towards happiness. For most of my life, I procrastinated on satisfaction by waiting for extraordinary events and worldly success.
There was always something I was eyeing on, and that thing had me controlled. Studying engineering wasn’t my first choice, but I had to go for it like every other Indian kid in the earlier 2010s. Most of my days during college were spent waiting to get out of college. Nothing seemed to make me happy. Even when I got the golden chance to skip engineering to study design — the moment I was waiting for for months. …
I have been fascinated by the concept of time.
If we dig a tad deeper, we’ll know that almost everything in life is about time. We work hard to achieve our dreams to get to a time where we feel accomplished; we wait for holidays to spend time with our loved ones. In fact, our life is the time we are here or
Life = Time we are alive
Before I had this realization, I spent my time like I was going to live for a thousand years. I was saying yes to everything and everyone; I was always available for calls and social. I was sleeping for 10 hours every day and was bingeing something or the other on Netflix or Prime Videos. …
Self-doubt has the power to hold us back.
I spent most of my life doubting myself, my capabilities.
I knew I was hard-working and had a vision. I was sure if I worked on a plan and worked hard, and I could live that vision and reach my highest potential.
But one thing that kept me throwing off the track; was my own self-doubt.
When I looked deeper, I learned that the only person who was coming in my way to live a fulfilling life was myself.
Here’s how I managed to get rid of the self-doubt by building a healthy relationship with myself. It allowed me to take control of my life and lower down the negative whisper. …
What do you do when you are in pain?
I spent years not knowing. I tried everything — from YouTube videos to motivational books to talking to friends and playing games online.
Nothing really worked. Then I started writing about it in my journals and found it cathartic. Researches have also shown how expressing writing helps ease pain and release stress, but it was not enough.
I wanted to take it a step further. I wanted to use this suffering to create something — be it a poem, painting, or a blog.
Initially, it sounded like an absurd thing to do. But I wanted to store these emotions; I wanted to use the suffering to share the feelings that not everyone can feel and create something from pure emotions. …
2019 was a tough year. I was facing setbacks in my personal and as well as in my professional life. Anxiety attacks were a regular thing; I would suddenly choke down in the middle of office hours with my heartbeats climbing the roof. It was impossible to control my breath or meditate; I needed something that didn’t require too much of my focus.
One day, a colleague sent me a song by Krishna Das, an American vocalist who sings devotional songs or kirtan. The first time I heard his song, my teary, I could feel the weight from my mind lift. …
“You don’t have to find out you are dying to start living.”
This line by Zach Sobiech, from YouTube’s My Last Days series, has stayed with me ever since I heard it for the first time.
I have a thing for documentaries, movies, and shows that invoke the SPARK in me. Disney’s new animated movie Soul is a perfect example of one such movie. The movie revolves around the life of Joe Gardner, a Jazz musician who gets in a flow state while playing the piano. …